Wednesday, September 05, 2012

Fifty Shades of Opinions

Judging from the title, yes, I will be discussing the most controversial book of the year, Fifty Shades of Grey. Now before you even exit out of this post, I dare you to read on. I am not here to tell you a story; I am here to discuss the book with you.

I read all three books in less than a week and I think this is the fastest I have read a book. I am a very slow reader because I have a very short attention span. I usually read books a chapter a day and Twilight actually took me 1 chapter in like one month (that is how badly I hated the book). But I found this trilogy quite interesting not only because of the erotic stuff but more because of the controversies underneath. The fact that people had bipolar reactions about it means it made an impact, and as a writer that is what you want. You want people to notice and discuss because it adds value to your work. And that is how you earn big time as a writer.
top: thrifted | shorts and ring: Forever 21 | brogues: Trunkshow | clutch: Accessorize 

Back to the topic, I do agree that the book is not for everyone. I believe it is a book that takes a lot of audacity in your bones and in your muscles to ingest and digest every detail of the story. It takes an open mind to fully appreciate the book. It takes a mature mind to filter everything written there.

I also agree that this book can somehow soil your IQ. A lot of people say that it is badly written and somehow, I do agree. There are parts where you will think it was written so bad you want to curse the author and edit the book yourself. Too much cheesiness and the way it's written is very repetitive. I don't know; technically, I didn't like it. It wasn't so much of a hard read with not too many to mention unfamiliar vocabulary. It is a good thing though, for the very reason that the book resonates to a wider audience even those with limited innate dictionary. But if you are looking for a book that can be educational as well, read another one instead. But this very reason I didn't like about the book is also one of the things I like about it. I rack my brains to the core with my writing job so reading something that is so easy and doesn't require me to think gave time for my brain cells to recuperate. I like that fact that I barely have to think about future incidences as it gave me time to relax and let my brain cells sleep.

But I also disagree on some people that this is not a good read. I actually think this is a good book. It may be appalling at first especially if you are new to the world of erotica but once you are through with the initiation, you may start appreciating it. Digressing from the sex parts of the book will you only see the light of the story. The book is more than just having sex and giving pain and pleasure to your partner. It is about finding yourself. The journey to self-discovery is what made me conclude that I did like the book after all. Apart from that, it was an easy read and I am one for dialogues more than narratives.

This book was actually more than just a good read because there were social implications. You may not notice it but the impact it made on society was more than what Harry Potter and the Hunger Games combined did. It made people realize and develop an opinion. It opened up a new world to many people that they thought existed only in Manga's and movies. The BDSM lifestyle is not really a new concept as it has always been portrayed in Hentai and movies (I am a huge fan of Manga but not really hentai because some are far too gory for my taste). But for some, it was a new discovery.



What I think made this book so appalling to many people is how casually sex was portrayed (this is just what I think. Comment below if you think otherwise). Every chapter you read, the main characters are doing kinky stuff not just once but more than thrice, if I counted correctly. Sex has always been deemed as a sacred act shared by married couples only. It is an act used to procreate more than for pleasure (at least that was what I was told). But the book digressed from the norm and portrayed sex as an act that can be done by two people attracted to each other. Digging deeply, I think they were actually in love with each other even before they started doing it - they just wouldn't admit it. But if you consider society nowadays, sex is not a taboo anymore. People have sex even if they are not married. One of my professors back in College actually said that, even before the Spaniards came to the Philippines the natives were having sex whenever and wherever they want. It is actually true for any natives around the world not just here in the Philippines. It was the teaching of the Catholic Church that said sex devoid of marriage is a sin (I am not here to discuss religion, just a point I want to raise).

Another point I want to raise is how accessible the book is to the younger generation. This is another thing that concerned many people. The youth of today, though not in general, are known to be negligent. The mere fact that the book has been a trending topic for months now makes it palpable that there are many negligent young people out there who will be reading this. And if they are not mature and smart enough to understand and filter the book, they might be at risk of trying the stuff out. It can be worrying especially to parents knowing that their child might be at risk of engaging in some BDSM. Though I have full respect for this kind of lifestyle as it is not my place to judge people who live by this, put yourself in the shoes of a parent. Knowing that your child is doing those "things" can be perturbing. It is like knowing your child joined a fraternity and has to receive hazing all the time (that is probably an exaggeration but I can't think of any analogy). This is why I think erotic novels should have a form of regulation and bookstores should be heedful as to who they are selling the novel to.


This book is not for everyone's taste but before you form an opinion, give the book a chance. I believe that people who haven't read it do not have a right to form an opinion simply because they have no idea what the whole story is. And one book alone does not tell it all. That is why this is a trilogy. It takes three books to know the entire story. If you give up on the first book, your opinion is moot since it is just 1/3 of its entirety. Read all three before you judge it. 

On a side note: I should actually digest that aforementioned paragraph myself because of how I said I hate the Twilight series. Maybe, I will give it a chance and read the other books. But I really hated how Kirsten Stewart played Bella and I don't want her lingering in my head for a long time. I watched the movies before I started reading so she will be the character at play in my head when I read, which is so sad in my part because I don't like her as an actress. Maybe when I'm done disliking her (mind you, this has nothing to do with her cheating scandal) I will give this book a shot. :)


I wore this outfit last week to go to the dermatologist to get a checkup. I thought I was having intense allergies but turns out, they were severe acne! I swear, I almost flipped out when the doctor told me they were not allergies but acne instead! This is the worst acne condition I have ever experienced and aside from that, they were kinda itchy at times which was my deciding factor to call them allergies. They're healing now anyway so I guess I will be able to capture more pictures again (or probably not because I am lazy like that).

Enjoy the weekend everyone! :)

30 comments :

  1. Cute shorts,nice blog, follow each other?
    http://shana-style.blogspot.com

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    1. thanks dear. Just followed you! :)

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  2. nice shoes!
    I hope the you can easily recover
    from that acne, stressful pa naman yun!

    http://smallfrequentdressing.blogspot.com/

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    1. thank you! sinabi mo pa! grrrr! kainis talaga pag tinitigyawat ka!!! haha! but they're healing now and almost cleared up...ALMOST! :D

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  3. I will have to read these books sooner or later! I am lusting over your ring!

    Don't Call Me Fashion Blogger
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    1. Yes, do read them! :) the ring is from Forever 21...love their jewelry section a lot! :)

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  4. I am loving the polka dotted shorts and 50 shades of gray has been a hot read in the US.

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    1. thank you! :) yes, I've heard...you should try reading it too (or not). :)

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  5. Sorry for my late reply! I'm back from my deserved holidays!
    Have a nice day!
    http://robertascoolestplaces.blogspot.com

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  6. nice casual and comfy outfit! you're so pretty!

    Anyway, I'm inviting you to my Pink Fashion Grand Launch
    Hope to see you there on September 20!

    It’s a GIRL Thing

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    1. awww! Thank you so much Julie! <3

      sayang ngayon lang ako nag-check ng comments...sorry I missed you invitation. :(

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  7. Lovely outfit, your shoes are so cute :)

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  8. wow I love all the thought you put into writing this post/ book review Jenn. I haven't read the book but I find myself agreeing with your points already haha, you sound very knowledgeable and persuasive

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    1. Thank you, Fiona! This is such a flattering comment. I was in marketing a few months back...maybe that is how I became persuasive? lol! Anyway, when you do read it, let us know what you think! :D

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  9. Beautiful style, I love your shoes :)

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  10. Nice blog! Would you mind following each other via bloglovin? :)

    /Malin @ http://fashionfied.tk

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    1. thank you! followed you via GFC already.

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  11. SO sweet :) i'm now following you :)

    ps. JOIN MY JENNIFER HALEY INTERNATIONAL GIVEAWAY :)

    http://thefrench-fries.blogspot.pt/2012/10/international-giveaway-jennifer-haley.html

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