Saturday, September 29, 2012

Love your Body

Yep, sounds like the Dove commercial. I have been meaning to write something about it because I do have firsthand experience with hating my own body. I remember telling myself once that when I graduate from college, the first thing I will spend on is a boob job. I wanted big boobs; something along the lines of Pamela Anderson and many other playboy bunnies.

When I was in sixth grade, I had been envious of many girls my age already developing their bodies. They have started forming breasts and they wore a bra all the time. I never wore a bra until I was in High School because really, there is nothing to "bra" on my chests. I didn't have my menstruation until a month before graduation so my body looked like a kid's until then (even until now, actually). As I watch my fellow classmates and batchmates become sexier and boys always notice how they look sexier than before, I started feeling low. I always question why am I developing late in the game? Why do they look like that and I look like this? The situation gave me low self esteem. But hey, I was in sixth grade. I was 12 and so are most of my classmates. I was not the only one having this dilemma.



Onto High School: I already have my period, I already wear a bra, but i still feel low. Why? Because seriously, I was wearing a bra for no particular reason at all. My boobs are still as flat as I remember them to be and I still have my childish body. I felt so left out as most of my classmates have grown over the summer and they look more grown up than ever. As for me, I was stuck in my childish body and I wanted out.


Unfortunately, even later in my puberty stage, nothing seems to have changed. My boobs may have grown a little, but they are still LITTLE. Since most of my friends have big chests already and mine ain't growing, I always get picked on about it. I may have shown that I don't care at all because most of the time I actually joke about it, too. I would join them in belittling myself and teasing about how I look more like a boy just so I could mask the hurt I felt inside. I would laugh with them but deep inside I was actually hurting. I mean, this is the body that God gave me and I don't have a choice about it. Why can't people realize that? Why can't people understand that?

But I don't consider this as bullying because: 1. most of them are my so-called friends; 2. they didn't hurt me physically (which back then, my only conception of bullying is physical assault); 3. I know myself better than to take everything personally; and, 4. I did the same to other people. Thinking about it, maybe I was bullied after all. But then again, I bullied other people, too. So I guess that's just Karma working for all of us.



Fortunately, I met a man who accepted me for all I am - flawed and imperfect. He was the one who helped me accept who I am and develop my confidence with how I look and what God endowed me with. He always tells me I am beautiful even if I don't think I am and he just makes me feel pretty even if I just woke up (with messy kinky hair and oily face).

 I mean, if this is what God gave me, so be it.

And then there is also that thing called maturity. As a girl, we just want to look our best all the time. But, how do we define "looking our best?" For me, it was having sexy curves, perfectly straight hair, and flawless skin. Now, it is having the confidence to carry yourself with elegance and poise, wearing clothes that flatter your body, and exuding positive vibes that make you glow innately. It really takes a mature mind to finally accept all your flaws and just be confident with who you are. While plastic surgery may be an option for many people, I still believe that the "natural" look is always the best.

It took me my boyfriend to realize how beautiful God has made me. It took me years to finally accept my body for how it is made because this is what made me unique. As what a few people have told me, I actually have a model's body, if only my legs were slimmer and longer (unfortunately or fortunately, I am only 155cm tall and my legs are stubby).

But it doesn't have to be that hard, really.

Start Loving your Body Today:

  1. Surround yourself with positive people. The key here is getting as much positive vibes as you can from friends or from family to help you get through all your body insecurities. Even if people pick on you, the positive aura surrounding you can help channel out all those negative feelings.
  2. Talk to people. It is important that you have someone you can talk to and who will listen to whatever you have to say. A best friend, your boyfriend/girlfriend, your mom, your sister, the guidance counselor - whoever he/she is, it is important that she listens and gives great advice.
  3. Never believe whatever negative thing people say about your body. If they pick on you, it only means that they are insecure of something in their bodies, too. While it may be fun and actually human nature to pick on people, it is up to you if you will believe it or not. And I say to NOT believe it!
  4. Realize that nobody is perfect and God made you that way because he made you perfect in another way. We all know that nobody's perfect and you have to realize that. You may have an  imperfect body, but surely, God made you perfect in another way. You just have to discover your talents, skills and what you are really good at. So, who cares if I have flat chests. I know I have my brain in tact and I graduated from the best school in my country.
  5. Ignore. I think this is the best advice I can give you all. Ignore all the haters because as they say (though I couldn't remember where I got this from), hater's gonna hate and potatoes gonna potate. Just ignore them and continue being the awesome you. They can't dictate how you live your life because they don't own you. Ignore and stay away from them as much as you can. You don't want all their hatred to infect you because that is going to affect your outlook in life.
With that said, cheers to Dove and their cause!!! This is not sponsored, okay (though I wish it was). I just believe in their cause. 


32 comments :

  1. Amazing post! Yes, everyone does go through times where we don't feel we look good, but I agree you should surround yourself with positive people who love you for who you are! Your shoes are adorable btw!

    http://everydayrachel21.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thanks for the positive feedback, Rachel! :) yes, this is why we must choose our group wisely.

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  2. wow! you look cute and pretty! :)

    - A.
    adriannaislookingforastyle.blogspot.com

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  3. I am following you too, dear :) Thanks for your support and keep in tocuh :)

    http://gamesoffashion.blogspot.com/

    Love, Press

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    1. Forgot to say... amazing post really!I enjoyed reading it@ Everyone has this moments and imperfections :) But I must say you are lovely :)

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    2. Wow, thanks for the complement dear. I'm glad you enjoyed reading this post despite the length of it. :)

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  4. that transparent blouse is wonderful!

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  5. I love this post, it's true that we have to accept ourselves as we are, althought sometimes it's hard..! When I was a teenager I felt the same way, I didn't have any boos or anything, and I had belly... But now I like my childish body, I mean it's not sexy but it's cute, so as yours! I love your outfit by the way.

    http://miss-velours.blogspot.com

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    1. I have a belly too! I agree with you that this body might not be sexy but it's cute! It has its own charm and advantages and I am happy and satisfied with it now. I just need to do some more sit-ups to lose the belly because it makes me look like a tadpole. haha!

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  6. super cute! love the color palette!

    do you want to follow each other on bloglovin' and gfc? let me know.
    wish you a wonderful week!
    xx
    www.apossiblefantasy.blogspot.com

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  7. You have a great figure and trust me...the girls who developed earlier than most ended up having a much more curvier shape which may translate to a more difficult time to manage weight.

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    1. thank you so much for noticing. I have to agree that people with curvier shape tend to have weight issues when they get older. I am so glad I have this petite body that looks cute (?).

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  8. nobody's perfect, though you're not tall with small boobs but hey, you really had a white, flawless skin with such a pretty face, im saying the truth! i'm not tall also, but believe me, i'm so contented because i learned to love myself since then.

    It’s a GIRL Thing

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    1. trust me, I don't have flawless skin! haha! the wonders of makeup. :) I agree with you that nobody's perfect. We may have our flaws but at least we're happy, right? :)

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  9. Hi Love,

    Super post!
    You have a fabulous blog.
    We can follow each other if u want :)

    Have a great week!

    Nicoleta

    www.nicoleta.me

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    1. thank you! followed you already. :)

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  10. Great Post!
    Love your body but most of all love yourself!!
    Have a great day!
    http://robertascoolestplaces.blogspot.com

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  11. Inspiring, I am always not proud of how my body turned out. I'm at my age and I'm still not comfortable with it. =( Slowly, I'm working on it and I'm more optimistic about now!

    Phipay
    http://stephipaysuyo.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thank you for finding this inspirational. Don't worry, you are not alone in your battle. There are millions of us out there who are not comfortable with their bodies but are leading a happy and satisfied life. Soon, you will find the comfort and ease that you are aspiring for. :)

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  12. nice post!!! maybe we follow each other!? let me know :) greetings www.yuliekendra.com

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    1. thank you. followed you already. :)

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  13. You look so cute! Love your shirt =)

    http://maramasplace.blogspot.com/

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  14. i love the dress!

    (following you now via GFC, hope you follow back)

    www.citybehindthefog.blogspot.com
    www.officiallygirlyfied.blogspot.com
    www.psychochicklessons.blogspot.com

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  15. Wow beautiful!!:) Your skin is so flawless!!

    New follower here! I love your blog! Backread on some posts and I got hooked.

    ♥,
    Shari
    The Misty Mom

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