Sunday, July 28, 2013

Loner vs. Independent

There is the saying that no man is an island. No man can live on his own. We need other people to produce our food. We need other people to do certain services for us. We need other people for social interaction. But sometimes, depending too much on other people gets to a point where you can't live on your own anymore. You draw energy from other people to help you survive. Some people become too clingy to the point where they can't function and do the things they want to do without the help of other people.

I, too, need other people to help with certain things. However, I am not the clingy type and I like doing things on my own. I mean, why should I allow other people determine the things that I want to do, right? If I want to go shopping, I go shopping alone. If I want to eat somewhere, I eat alone. I do a lot of things on my own and I am not really one to care. I have always liked the independence and liberty that comes with doing things on my own. But that does not mean I am a loner or an anti-social. I just don't depend on other people too much.

I work at home so I rarely go out of the house. When I was still studying and working as a medical representative for a local company, I was rarely at home. I am always out and about and going different places. I liked the adventure going on different places brings. I am always with friends and we hung out like A LOT. But when I started working at home, I started to feel lonely. I don't really have colleagues I can talk to in person (aside from my editors who I talk about work-related stuff only via email) and my friends are all busy with their careers. I, on the other hand, is stuck at home talking to my computer and my dogs who will never understand me. I barely see the outside world anymore and I feel like I have built a fortress and I am trapped inside.

Yeah, working at home can oftentimes become boring because there is really no one you can talk to and I don't really advise this type of work for single and young people who are still in their prime years seeking for adventure. It is an ideal job for mothers taking care of babies. But because I have something that I really want to do, I can't be a corporate employee with regular working hours. 

Then one day, just out of boredom, I decided to try doing things on my own. I went some places I wanted to go to and ate somewhere I wanted to eat. I just gave in. It gave me a sense of joy and adventure that I have deeply missed. My friends - they will always be my friends even if I don't get to talk to them all the time. We may have different interests and new friends now but we will all still remain as friends. We do see each other occasionally so I am not really a loner. And besides, I haven't shut myself from people. I do get to meet new people sometimes and I socialize with them so I am still a sociable being. It's just that I have chosen to be independent and I don't depend on other people for the things that I want to do. If they can't accompany me to go shopping or dine out, it's fine, really. I can go on my own because I choose to be independent. If we both have the time, then that is when we can finally be together.

sweater: H&M | dress and bracelet: Forever 21 | necklace: handmade | oxfords: Trunk Show

I really want the rain to stop because I want to have dinner somewhere today. I don't like getting my shoes wet when I go out. :(  (written at 2:46PM 7/28/2013)

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Have a blessed Sunday! 


  1. I'm an independent type of person too, it's really fun sometimes that you get to do and go to places, dine somewhere without someone to tag along. I was used to this kind of setting since I am into LDR and most of the time I go out alone plus my friends are nowhere in sight because they are busy with their work. I work at home too that's why I have my own free time and I can always go to places whenever I wanted to. There are times I hang out with different companions, whoever is available and I am not the type who always beg for their time. :)

    p.s. Cute outfit and nice bracelet :)

  2. Amazing look!!!
    Hi what a cute nice blog honey you have.....My name is Paola I am a Blogger based in italy and I was wandering if we could follow each other GFC and bloglovin.
    Let me know I will follow you back!!!

  3. hi jenn :) i admire your independence, its a character that i want to have for myself. i too can relate with you when it comes to being alone most of the times. i am always at home and in time i changed and became more of home buddy :) i like it but sometimes it can get lonely.

  4. I find those pair of oxfords super adorable, Jenn!

    Lately I have been contemplating on the result of my soul card reading. I have decided to let go and just stop with the "wanting to feel secured" feeling I have been having. I wanna go and try to do things on my own too. Eat when I wanted to, go home if I don't feel like hanging out anymore just do what I think makes me happy and stop relying on people and whether I'd miss out on something because sometimes I miss out on the bigger things in life.

  5. Your dress polka dots is really beautiful ^^
    I love it :)

    New post - Kisses

  6. nice polka dot dress, sis. nice shoes also. i miss your blog :)

    It’s a GIRL Thing

  7. Great post! I hope to see you in my blog sometimes. Thanks! :) Following you now!
    Kisses from VV!!

  8. Hi Jenn! I am a independent type too, so I can get you!:) You look very adorable I like the dress, the shoes and the sweater! Hope the rain will stop soon!:) Happy Monday, kisses! xo

  9. Simple, chic and cute, loving your colors.

  10. Hi! such a nice post!

    would you like to follow each other?? let me know!

  11. such a pretty skirt!

  12. true! your post is truly inspiring.
    we have our capabilities and boundaries.
    I hope someone understand me like that too.
    can;t wait for your next post dear.
    keep inspiring!

  13. Beautiful look!!! The bracelet is adorable :D
    Only two days left to participate in my giveaway!

  14. Nice post!!
    I totally agree, and I would like to add that if you want things to happen do it yourself!
    I love your dress!! You are very cute!


  15. I super love this post :) hehe :) btw, im inlove with your outfit especially the shoes :))

  16. Adorable outfit, your dress is beautiful and I love your sweater :)

  17. I love this outfit, the dots are cool with the blue derbys!