Monday, October 28, 2013

The Concept of Beauty

They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But, who is the beholder? That is something that I used to question a lot. The concept of beauty is something that is very vague and subjective. One may be beautiful in the eye of one but isn't truly beautiful in the eye of another. There is no universal concept of beauty. Therefore, as I believe, beauty is something that can never be defined. But of course, Merriam & Webster has its own definition (for reference purposes, perhaps?). So, what really is beauty?

According to the dictionary, beauty is defined as something that is pleasing or appealing to the senses. It is an adjective used to describe something or someone that the senses find pleasurable. I think the color pink is a beautiful color because it pleases my eyes. I can say that Kpop is a beautiful genre of music because it pleases my ears. However, note that the way I described the things I find beautiful uses possessive pronouns. That is because these are my preferences and nobody else's. Not everyone will have the same thoughts and express the same opinions as I do. We all have our own preferences and we all have our own form of judgement when it comes to beauty.


The reason why I am bringing this topic about is because I have been reading a lot of articles on beauty, ideal types, and insecurity. Additionally, it is inspired by someone I know. 

I never would have guessed that she was bullied in High School. Some of her classmates were spreading rumors about her being smelly and not taking a bath. There was also one incident that physical bullying was done to her. She has a very bright personality: always smiling and always happy. I never thought that there were some things underneath that bright personality. Well, as they say, the happiest people on the outside are most of the time the saddest on the inside. Because of this, she says she did feel like she was really ugly. She never thought of herself as someone who can be beautiful. 

It is a sad thing that young girls have to experience. I mean, we all felt awkward at some point during puberty, right? Those unstoppable hormones ruining your skin and your mood and that phase when your school uniform suddenly shrinks without you even knowing it. Puberty and adolescence is a very awkward phase. But that does not give anyone the excuse to feel bad about themselves. Everyone around you is also undergoing some changes. You may just have it a different way than them. And besides, you are still growing and there are many more changes that you will have to go through. You may look ugly now and look like you are not taking a bath (even if you are) but that will all change after a few years.
Furthermore, even if people call you ugly, I don't think that should really bother you because beauty is not universal. It is very subjective and depends according to preferences. So, don't let it get to you if people think you are ugly. If you think you aren't, then that is all that matters, right? Have some confidence in yourself!

Another thing that really bothers me is when some people try to really change physically so people will like them. You all know I love Kpop and one thing that their fans always ask about them is their ideal types. Then, they would go answer that they like this and that - which are all quite very physical (i.e. long hair, double eyelids, milky white skin, etc.). And then I will read stories about their fans really trying to change their looks just so they would fit in the category of their beloved idols. I mean, I do admire idols, too, but not to the point that I will grow my hair or have double eyelid surgery (or probably because I do have double eyelids) just to fit in their ideal type. Sometimes people just stick to one concept of beauty that is widely accepted by their society so they try to change themselves to become socially accepted. But being unique is more important, right? I certainly don't want to look like everyone else so I think deviating from the majority's definition of beauty has its perks.
But then again, who am I to judge those people who want to change themselves to look better. I was never really someone who struggled with confidence which is probably why I don't understand. But in my opinion, everyone is beautiful in their own way - some just happen to not appreciate it. Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that beholder is none other than you.
 Floral Headband, Spike Cuff, Maxi Skirt: Forever 21 | Cropped Top: SM Department Store
Necklace: Comfit | Wedges: Asian Vogue
Have a lovely week ahead!

P.S: I am going on a vacation this Thursday and I can't wait!


42 comments :

  1. You look super Stunning,I love your skirt and necklace so much.
    Have a beautiful Monday.
    Kisses...

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  2. You look fab!!!! I love your floral crowne!!!!
    Happy monday doll!

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  3. That skirt is just so beautiful! :)

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  4. Hi Jenn! I like what you wrote and I agree with you. So sorry for the girl you know who was bullied in High School, unfortunately it happens always more often..I think beauty is something subjective and we havent to change our way to be just to like to others. Btw, you look very cool, I like your shoes!:) Enjoy your vacation! Kisses! xo

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    1. Bullying is really widespread nowadays. It breaks my heart that young girls have to go through this. And I agree with you. You can't please everyone anyone so why bother changing yourself, right? Thank you, Lilli.

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  5. LOVE your skirt!! Great post :)

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  6. I also believe that beauty can't be defined, like what you've said, we have our own preferences and different perceptions about it. It really gets me whenever I hear stories about people who were bullied or discriminated because they're different. Anyways, enjoy your vacation :)


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    1. True! Being different is not a reason for bullying. Thank you, Cielo.

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  7. Pretty! Have fun on your vacay!
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  8. Such a thoughtful post. It's amazing to see how much people can overcome. And lovely outfit!

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    1. Thank you! I agree. I don't even know they overcome bullying. But I am glad that they/she was able to make it through.

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  9. Hmm.. I really like your writing here.. Hopefully the girl who's bullied in high school is living a happy life outside and inside now :D. It's true that beauty definition is different to every people. Some may think this girl is pretty, some may not. But you shouldn't call people ugly just because you were born pretty. I myself believe in karma. So if you respect people, people will respect you even if you get old and your beauty fades.

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    1. Thank you for your concern for her. She is actually. She has always been bright and happy that this incident came as a surprise to me. I agree that karma is always there waiting to attack. As the golden rule says, don't do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you.

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  10. Wow, amazing look, i love your skirt :)
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  11. You look amazing and I really love your skirt :)

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  12. such an inspiring post jen. this is an issue everyone face everyday and I agree with you. everyone is beautiful in their own way, and true beauty comes from within. nice to see you back and blogging again. have fun on your vacation! :)

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    1. Thank you,Shayne! Yes, we are all uniquely beautiful.

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  13. Love the colors in ur skirt... :D
    Beautiful look!

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  14. Wow ! Fabulous skirt sweetie and your flower crown is adorable :)

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  15. That skirt is beyond beeeautiful! You look
    great as well c: I see you are from Philippines
    and I hope you are safe and sound!! Xx

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    1. Thank you, Ice! Thank you for your concern. Manila is really fortunate to be out of the course of the typhoon so my family and I are okay. But the people in Tacloban and other parts of the Visayas region were really devastated. It breaks my heart, every time! :(

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  16. incredible, I love so much your skirt!

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  17. Nice photos. I completely agree with you about beauty.
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