They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But, who is the beholder? That is something that I used to question a lot. The concept of beauty is something that is very vague and subjective. One may be beautiful in the eye of one but isn't truly beautiful in the eye of another. There is no universal concept of beauty. Therefore, as I believe, beauty is something that can never be defined. But of course, Merriam & Webster has its own definition (for reference purposes, perhaps?). So, what really is beauty?
According to the dictionary, beauty is defined as something that is pleasing or appealing to the senses. It is an adjective used to describe something or someone that the senses find pleasurable. I think the color pink is a beautiful color because it pleases my eyes. I can say that Kpop is a beautiful genre of music because it pleases my ears. However, note that the way I described the things I find beautiful uses possessive pronouns. That is because these are my preferences and nobody else's. Not everyone will have the same thoughts and express the same opinions as I do. We all have our own preferences and we all have our own form of judgement when it comes to beauty.
The reason why I am bringing this topic about is because I have been reading a lot of articles on beauty, ideal types, and insecurity. Additionally, it is inspired by someone I know.
I never would have guessed that she was bullied in High School. Some of her classmates were spreading rumors about her being smelly and not taking a bath. There was also one incident that physical bullying was done to her. She has a very bright personality: always smiling and always happy. I never thought that there were some things underneath that bright personality. Well, as they say, the happiest people on the outside are most of the time the saddest on the inside. Because of this, she says she did feel like she was really ugly. She never thought of herself as someone who can be beautiful.
It is a sad thing that young girls have to experience. I mean, we all felt awkward at some point during puberty, right? Those unstoppable hormones ruining your skin and your mood and that phase when your school uniform suddenly shrinks without you even knowing it. Puberty and adolescence is a very awkward phase. But that does not give anyone the excuse to feel bad about themselves. Everyone around you is also undergoing some changes. You may just have it a different way than them. And besides, you are still growing and there are many more changes that you will have to go through. You may look ugly now and look like you are not taking a bath (even if you are) but that will all change after a few years.
Furthermore, even if people call you ugly, I don't think that should really bother you because beauty is not universal. It is very subjective and depends according to preferences. So, don't let it get to you if people think you are ugly. If you think you aren't, then that is all that matters, right? Have some confidence in yourself!
Another thing that really bothers me is when some people try to really change physically so people will like them. You all know I love Kpop and one thing that their fans always ask about them is their ideal types. Then, they would go answer that they like this and that - which are all quite very physical (i.e. long hair, double eyelids, milky white skin, etc.). And then I will read stories about their fans really trying to change their looks just so they would fit in the category of their beloved idols. I mean, I do admire idols, too, but not to the point that I will grow my hair or have double eyelid surgery (or probably because I do have double eyelids) just to fit in their ideal type. Sometimes people just stick to one concept of beauty that is widely accepted by their society so they try to change themselves to become socially accepted. But being unique is more important, right? I certainly don't want to look like everyone else so I think deviating from the majority's definition of beauty has its perks.
But then again, who am I to judge those people who want to change themselves to look better. I was never really someone who struggled with confidence which is probably why I don't understand. But in my opinion, everyone is beautiful in their own way - some just happen to not appreciate it. Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that beholder is none other than you.
Floral Headband, Spike Cuff, Maxi Skirt: Forever 21 | Cropped Top: SM Department Store
Necklace: Comfit | Wedges: Asian Vogue
P.S: I am going on a vacation this Thursday and I can't wait!