Sunday, January 26, 2014

Anger Management

I don't believe there is a single person on Earth who never got angry at one point in his life (save for Bible characters, perhaps?) Anger is a natural feeling that people experience. There will always be triggers wherever you go that will make this feeling emerge. Whether these are little things or major things, you can never escape from getting angry. However, anger can be managed. There are certain things you can do to prevent this ill-feeling from consuming you. 

Lately, there are so many things that make me feel angry: contractors not delivering what they say they will deliver and a co-worker who doesn't do his job well - they all made me feel angry. But though I am angry at a certain moment, I try to manage it as best as I can. I know that there will be better things waiting for me at the end of the day and allowing anger to consume me will only ruin it and make me feel worse (not to mention damaging relationships). Learning the art of anger management is definitely something that we all must learn.
How I Manage Anger:
  • Talk - talking to someone who you know will listen and understand what you're feeling is essential. You need to let the negative vibes out so you can invite more positive vibes to come in. Let it out. Share it with someone and breathe.
  • Meditate - yoga is something that I find helpful in relieving anger. Meditation through yoga helps release all the tension I feel due to anger. You get peace of mind and a relaxed body.
  • Cardio Exercise - I highly recommend this for people who feel really mad - people who feel like they have reached their limit. Boxing, swimming, and running can help release all that heavy tension building inside you. When you are really mad, you have the urge to become violent. But that is definitely not a good thing to do (you can get into jail with that!). Instead of hitting someone, punch a punching bag. Think of the person you want to hit and hit it as much as you want until you feel better. Not only will you be able to release anger, you will also not get into jail for being violent.
  • Write - if you can't talk to anyone, write all your emotions down. The secret to managing anger is actually releasing it. But you have to find non-violent ways of releasing and writing is one of those non-violent strategies to manage anger. I do this all the time and I promise that this helps a lot!
  • Eat - this is something that I really do not recommend as it can take a toll on your body if you don't do it moderately. I do feel better after eating a bar of white Toblerone or 2 slices of cake. But you have to remember to eat in moderation as too much sugar can be detrimental to your health.
  • Selective Listening - if you know you are already almost at your limit, do selective listening. Don't listen to everything the other person has to say anymore. Just choose which ones you can take in that won't make you feel angry and ignore those that will make you angry.

I am one of those people who get mad at the littlest things. But getting angry all the time even with little things will get the best of you and you will end up feeling angry all the time. Feeling angry all the time will not only make you look unpleasant but it will also ruin your entire day.Don't allow anger to control your life. Do it the other way around: control anger. These are the things I do to help me keep calm and continue to enjoy my day despite events that trigger me to get angry. 

Boater hat: Peaches on Top | Top and Necklace: Forever 21 | Skirt: Bubbles
Shoes: Asian Vogue | Lunchbox: Harajuku Lovers

How do you manage anger?

Have a great week ahead. :)

37 comments :

  1. Lovely outfit! Thanks for the follow, following back.
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  2. I love the lunchbox. So cute, Jenn! And the skater skirt, I have long wanted to have a skater skirt only when I tried one it kinda didn't look good on me. LOL

    Well, how do I manage my anger. Well, my sisters would know I'm angry if I start becoming (1) sarcastic ans (2) extremely scary nice. Hahaha! I do know how to calm myself down, it's a technique I have managed to learn through being the eldest daughter. Hahaha! :)


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    Gelleesh.com

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    1. I am also extremely sarcastic when I'm angry and most people don't get it. Yeah, calming yourself down on such situations is an art we all must learn.

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  3. I definitely agree about the anger things. I'm a very irritable person, and sometimes I need to remember not to have it consume me.
    Great outfit, by the way, LOVE the shoes! ;)

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    1. Thank you! It is very important that we remember to calm down.

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  4. you look so lovely and dainty dear! i am really in love with your lunch box. so kawaii :"3

    xoxo,
    rae
    http://raellarina.blogspot.com/

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  5. Great outfit!!! Love the soft color of the skirt! Cute bag! Interesting post. I agree with your anger tips. Don't let it eat you up.
    xox
    Lenya
    FashionDreams&Lifestyle

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    1. Thank you! Yes, allowing anger to eat you up will only result in even worse situations.

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  6. Hi Jenn, those ways are very good to keep under the anger. Usually, when I go mad, I take a walk, stay outdoor or try to think positive and eat :) Looking adorable, love the skirt!:) Have a great week ahead! xo

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    1. I definitely agree! Taking a breather is always a good option to calm yourself down and think clearly.

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  7. You're so cute! Following you on Twitter.How you can follow me back . Keep in touch :-)
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  8. You are totally right, we must control our anger.
    Cute outfit, Love it all


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  9. Lovely ^^
    I love your shoes :)

    Kiss
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  10. Im in love with your outfit ! :) did miss reading your blog posts :D been away for months. hehe! i know the feeling if you cant control your anger and it kinda sucks :D

    --ROXY
    thestylescraper.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you! It's good to have you back.

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  11. i think there's a way to deal with it
    and that is to be patient at whatever that makes you angry
    i love the pink babydoll skirt
    it's so lovely

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    1. Yes, patience is a virtue that we all need. Thank you!

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  12. I completely agree with the talk and eat thing to manage my anger

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    1. Yes, the most effective ones for me.

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  13. I loved this post! I pray and meditate. It calms me down. Anger is important to manage. Stress can take a toll on your body and so can being angry all the time. I LOVE your outfit! It's so cute! You look great from head to toe. Such a pretty look!
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    1. Talking to God really helps in relieving all the stress due to anger. Thank you!

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  14. Have a nice day ^^

    Kisses
    http://www.mademoisellemode.com/

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  15. Cute and sweet outfit! love the bag.

    Ongoing giveaway here: Blossoming Wallflower

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  16. cute naman ng outfit mo dito sis :) hope everything is better for you now <3

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    1. Thank you, Shayne. Yes, everything is all better now.

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  17. Perfect!

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  18. Just perfect ! Your top is beautiful and I love your hat :)

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