I don't believe there is a single person on Earth who never got angry at one point in his life (save for Bible characters, perhaps?) Anger is a natural feeling that people experience. There will always be triggers wherever you go that will make this feeling emerge. Whether these are little things or major things, you can never escape from getting angry. However, anger can be managed. There are certain things you can do to prevent this ill-feeling from consuming you.
Lately, there are so many things that make me feel angry: contractors not delivering what they say they will deliver and a co-worker who doesn't do his job well - they all made me feel angry. But though I am angry at a certain moment, I try to manage it as best as I can. I know that there will be better things waiting for me at the end of the day and allowing anger to consume me will only ruin it and make me feel worse (not to mention damaging relationships). Learning the art of anger management is definitely something that we all must learn.
How I Manage Anger:
- Talk - talking to someone who you know will listen and understand what you're feeling is essential. You need to let the negative vibes out so you can invite more positive vibes to come in. Let it out. Share it with someone and breathe.
- Meditate - yoga is something that I find helpful in relieving anger. Meditation through yoga helps release all the tension I feel due to anger. You get peace of mind and a relaxed body.
- Cardio Exercise - I highly recommend this for people who feel really mad - people who feel like they have reached their limit. Boxing, swimming, and running can help release all that heavy tension building inside you. When you are really mad, you have the urge to become violent. But that is definitely not a good thing to do (you can get into jail with that!). Instead of hitting someone, punch a punching bag. Think of the person you want to hit and hit it as much as you want until you feel better. Not only will you be able to release anger, you will also not get into jail for being violent.
- Write - if you can't talk to anyone, write all your emotions down. The secret to managing anger is actually releasing it. But you have to find non-violent ways of releasing and writing is one of those non-violent strategies to manage anger. I do this all the time and I promise that this helps a lot!
- Eat - this is something that I really do not recommend as it can take a toll on your body if you don't do it moderately. I do feel better after eating a bar of white Toblerone or 2 slices of cake. But you have to remember to eat in moderation as too much sugar can be detrimental to your health.
- Selective Listening - if you know you are already almost at your limit, do selective listening. Don't listen to everything the other person has to say anymore. Just choose which ones you can take in that won't make you feel angry and ignore those that will make you angry.
I am one of those people who get mad at the littlest things. But getting angry all the time even with little things will get the best of you and you will end up feeling angry all the time. Feeling angry all the time will not only make you look unpleasant but it will also ruin your entire day.Don't allow anger to control your life. Do it the other way around: control anger. These are the things I do to help me keep calm and continue to enjoy my day despite events that trigger me to get angry.
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How do you manage anger?
Have a great week ahead. :)