Not to worry as I am not pregnant. I don't have any plans on becoming a mother anytime soon. But I do have friends who are and I could not be any more prouder. We just have different goals and different paths in life. I am already 26 and people have been telling me I should get married soon and start my own family. On top of that, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 9 years now that everyone just expects us to tie the knot really soon. 2015? 2016? 2017? Who knows? As far as I am concerned, I am not ready to be tied down just yet and enter the mysterious world of motherhood.
One day, one of my colleagues called me an "expired cake." According to him, people in Japan marry at an early age and 25 is like their deadline. I am 26 - one year expired in their culture. Most of my friends and classmates back in high school are either married with 1 or more children, or single mothers. The pressure in my environment is building up for me to follow suit and become a mother/wife as well. But I am not really the type of person to be easily influenced by peer pressure. I have a strong sense of my goals and principles in life and motherhood/becoming a wife is not in it - for now. I am happy to be the godmother of their cute little babies but to have one of my own is not really a priority for me. I don't care if I am already expired in Japan's culture. I value myself and my goals more than what other people say. Honestly, I am the type of person who doesn't care about what other people think. I just do what I want so long as I know I am not doing anything against the law.
It is a bit exasperating sometimes when people force a certain opinion on you. Whenever people tell me that I should get married soon and have a baby I always tell them I am not ready. I will never get into a situation when I am not prepared emotionally, financially, and mentally - unless it is an "accident" that by some ill-fate was bestowed upon me. I am not very spontaneous nor am I a risk-taker. Things like marriage and motherhood are no joke. It is your life you will have to give up. And right now I feel I am not ready to give that up.
There are so many things I want to do first before I can say I am ready for marriage and motherhood. I don't have a deadline like some people do because that will only make me anxious. I want to take my time until I feel that I am ready. You'll never really know when you are but until I can say that I am stable enough - financially, emotionally, and mentally - I will refuse to give in to people's opinions. I don't care if I am 1, 2 , 5 years past the expiration date. I will live my life the way I want to before I decide to get married and have a baby.
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