Sometimes I enjoy meeting random people. It flatters me when random people come up to me and talk to me. I enjoy hearing their stories and I find it heart-warming when they give me advice about life. This is probably one of the reasons why I enjoy that part of my job that I have to deal with people, hear their stories, and give them advice. I find a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction in doing that.
But there are also times when I get freaked out by random people who approach me. Sometimes there is something with the way people approach you that comes off as creepy and unbecoming.
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I was approached by a random person one day but I decided to run away when he started talking. There was something off about it and I thought it was uncool. But then as I was thinking about it going home, I kinda felt guilty. Though I thought it is off and uncool, it was rude of me to run away. I should’ve said something like “thank you but I am in a rush” or something along that line. There was a reversal in the end: I was the uncool one. So to that random person: I truly am sorry. It was rude of me to run away. I could’ve said something nicer than to run away. But I guess I opted for “flight” instead of “fight” at that time. It was a rather uncomfortable situation for me and I wasn’t thinking properly.
What should you do when you are in an awkward situation with a random person? After some thinking, here are what I came up with:
- Smile and be nice – that random person probably took the courage to approach you and it would be rude to ignore him/her and run away. Just smile and try your best to be nice even if you feel uncomfortable.
- Be frank in a nice way – if you are uncomfortable, don’t hold it in. Tell that person how you feel but in a nice way. It always pays to be nice to people - trust me.
- Listen - sometimes people just need someone to listen to their story. Set aside your vanity and the urge to tell people your story. You need to listen to theirs.
- Keep an open mind - not all strangers will do you harm. Keep your mind open about all the possibilities that meeting can bring you. It could just be coincidence or it could be fate.
- But at the same time keep your guard up - yes, not all strangers are harmful but it could also be that they are. When you meet random people, notice their body language and the way they talk. Most of the time those are already giveaways if they mean harm or not. Also, when you accept meeting random people, make sure it is in a public place. Never go with people you just met to somewhere private.
Have a lovely weekend!