Thursday, February 26, 2015

Long Distance Relationship: Making it Work

Cardigan: H&M | Dress: Topshop | Oxfords: Debenhams
Ribbon: Forever 21 | Necklace: Thomas Sabo | iPad Case: Kate Spade

I don't normally talk about my love life with people, but since this is the love month, I'll make an exception. I know Valentine's Day is long gone, but when it comes to romance and relationships, it can never be too late. No matter how old you get, love and romance are experiences and feelings that are omnipresent. So though, February is almost over and we're nearing summer, an article about love and romance can never get old. 

In case many of you don't know yet, my boyfriend left last August to work in a cruise ship. It was very difficult initially as I know I will miss him a lot. And as what I've always told him, who will help me and comfort me when I have problems? It felt as if I will lose a best friend and a boyfriend at the same time. But it's already been 6 months since he left and I can we are perfectly fine. Holding on to the promise that we will see and be with each other again after 8 months - yes, he is coming home this April and I can't wait! I really missed him a lot. We rarely talk because he doesn't always have internet connection and because I know he is very busy with working. I am excited for when we meet again but for now, we just have to hang in there and believe that destiny will bring us together again.

Surviving a long distance relationship with minimal communication can be very difficult but I believe that with trust and honesty, this will be a breeze. Here is just a quick guide on how to survive LDR:
  1. Don't listen to what other people tell you - I was told often that he might not come back anymore and that my heart might waver because of proximity. People around me are just too negative and I don't need any of that in my life. Do not listen to these people who will just bring your heart and mind down. They will just add stress and make you worry. Don't listen to them. Only listen to what your heart and mind tells you. Don't let their words get into your head. Otherwise, you will feel anxious and restless all the time.
  2. Trust - because constant communication can be an issue, you have nothing else to rely on but trust. You just have to trust his words and trust his actions.What is a relationship anyway without trust, right? It is the foundation of any relationship and without it, any relationship will come undone. Just trust him and he should trust you as well. 
  3. See it as an opportunity - I don't mean opportunity to cheat and be involved in another romantic relationship. What I mean by seeing it as an opportunity is to discover yourself more and find out what you really want in life. I am only 26 and I believe I have so many opportunities to come in my life that I would never see if he was with me. Take this opportunity to have some "alone" and "self-discovery" time that you can never have if your partner is with you. Sometimes when you are in a relationship you tend to dedicate all your spare time to him/her. But with being alone and on your own, you get to think your life through and discover so many things about yourself that you would otherwise not see.
  4. Spend time with family and friends - when people are in a relationship, they tend to overlook their friends and family. With him being away, it is a great opportunity to spend some quality time with your friends and family. This is also so you don't feel like you are alone. This is also a great diversion so you don't feel sad because you miss him too much. Enjoy and be happy.
  5. It is okay not to talk all the time - you might ponder on how his day is and what he is doing but don't feel sad if doesn't send you a text or an IM on facebook. Keep in mind that he is there to work and not for a vacation. It just so happens that you live you in different time zones. When you are awake he is asleep and vice versa. Also, he is busy and must be tired from working so don't demand too much. As mentioned above, you just have to trust him.
It can be difficult to be apart for some time and on top of that, you rarely get to talk to each other. But I believe that long distance relationships can be a great opportunity for you to discover yourself and the world. Take this opportunity to explore and be happy but with whatever you do, keep in mind that someone is waiting to come back to you and see you again. Do what you want but don't forget that person who loves you as well.



16 comments :

  1. you look so sweet..

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  2. I'm glad hes coming home soon and you can finally hug the hell out of him :) I really admire couple who are in LDR because it not easy and not everyone can hold on.. best of luck!
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    1. It is difficult initially but you just have to bear with it and hold on to that hope. :) Time flies fast these days anyway so it doesn't feel like he's gone for too long.

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  3. Lovely dress, so pretty and delicate. About LDR, though, I don't want to be in one. Not because I don't think I can survive it but I believe a relationship is about spending quality time together and I want to be able to enjoy that. :)

    Visiting your blog from one of my favorite fashion blogger's site. I thought I'd come check you out. If you're interested on connecting in social media or GFC (if you have), let me know.

    Abby,
    Life in the Fash Lane

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    1. I know. It is difficult to be apart. But I believe that distance makes you grow stronger and more in-love. Also, sometimes in love, you have to learn how to let go in order for you to discover yourself and for you to grow and become better as well.

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    2. I know. It is difficult to be apart. But I believe that distance makes you grow stronger and more in-love. Also, sometimes in love, you have to learn how to let go in order for you to discover yourself and for you to grow and become better as well.

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  4. This dress is so cute!

    Ann | http://annrobiefashion.com/

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  5. I like your dress. And those tips. I hope everyone in LDR not just survive it but be strengthened by it.

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