Thursday, April 02, 2015

Managing a Stressful Boss



One of the disadvantages of being an employee is you can't choose your boss. It's the other way around: the boss chooses you. And you can't help it if you have a stressful boss. Either you manage it and handle the pressure with grace or you quit. There're your only option. A stressful boss is most of the time the reason why I wish I am self employed instead. How wonderful would it be if no one will nag me and pressure me to get things done? How carefree would my life be if there is no one who will demand things that are beyond my capabilities? How happy would I be if I am my own boss? But at the end of the day, a stressful boss is just that - a stressful boss. He/she shouldn't be in the way of you living your life and achieving your goals. And what is life without a little challenge like having a stressful boss? It would be boring as hell if I think about it. There will be a time when you will encounter a stressful person whether you are self employed or not who will pressure you to your limits and test your patience. You just have to learn how to handle it with grace.



Tips on handling a stressful boss:
  1. Don't let it get to you - yes you will feel the pressure. Yes you will feel as if the world is crumbling at your fingertips. Yes you will feel like being on the edge. But don't let it get to you. A boss is just a boss. He is not your life. Think of your goals and what you want to achieve in life. But if you really can't take it, like when your values and principles are being compromised, then that is the time that you should consider quitting. I believe that a stressful boss should not dictate the course of your life. If you enjoy your work and you enjoy what you are doing, then he is not a reason to let go of that. But when your values is being compromised because of his demands, that is good enough reason to quit and find a new job. You shouldn't change your values and principles just because of a stressful boss. Remember, you is more important than an external entity. Do not lose who you are.
  2. Think of your goals - when your boss is stressing you to the point that you want to quit, think of your goals. Will you be able to achieve those goals if you quit? Will you still be able to sustain your lifestyle if you quit? If you think you can still pursue these goals outside of your current organisation, by all means you should quit. But if not, then a stressful boss is no reason for you to leave behind the organisation and your goals. As mentioned in number 1, you is more important and that include the things you want to achieve in life.
  3. Talk to your boss - this may be daunting to most people, but this is highly effective. Sometimes the reason why the boss is stressing you out is because he is also stressed about his work. It may seem unreasonable but it happens. Remember that a boss has more responsibilities than you do which is why they are more stressed out than you to the point that they release their stress by stressing you out. Find a time when he is calm and talk to him in a nice manner. Remember the term "calm" because talking to your boss when he is stressed out will only regard your talk as useless. A stressed boss becomes unreasonable most of the time so make sure you find the right time to talk to him.
  4. Organise a simple socialisation event in the office - this is a great way to help everyone relax - not just your boss but you and your colleagues as well. A simple afternoon tea or morning tea is a great idea to help everyone take a short break, talk, take a breather, and just not think of work. This will show your initiative and eagerness to keep the workplace in a happy environment which is a plus point for you. It shows that you care for everyone which is a trait of a manager (boss).
Top, Skirt and Hair Ribbon: Forever 21 | Shoes: H&M | Bag: Aldo
Necklace: Accessorize | Watch: Swatch | Lips: Revlon's Wild Orchid




Top, Skirt and Hair Ribbon: Forever 21 | Shoes: H&M | Bag: Aldo
Necklace: Accessorize | Watch: Swatch | Lips: Revlon's Wild Orchid


For non-self employed people like me, encountering a stressful boss is inevitable. Remember the tips I mentioned above and I guarantee a harmonious workplace and a better relationship with you and your boss.

To all the graduates out there who are about to enter the workforce, good luck!  I wish you luck in finding a boss who will nurture your strengths and improve your weaknesses - hopefully without much stress.

26 comments :

  1. great outfits! anyway this is really good tips. thanks for sharing.
    TOM AND TINS

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  2. Aww thanks for the tips, all these will be helpful soon because im now patiently waiting for callbacks from the company i applied :) Ahhh fingers crossed! You look lovely btw <3

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  3. Beautiful look! Stripes are must have for the new season! Great chic look!
    xx
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  4. i loved your outfit :)

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  5. Awe great post, I hate working with a stressful boss
    xo
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    1. I know! It makes the whole office environment unpleasant.

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  6. Thank you, dear! I agree :D White sweater looks good on any outfits :D

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  7. Wonderful tips! I can totally relate to this boss thing-y!

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  8. thanks for the tips :) good luck to you too!

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  9. I guess I'm fortunate enough to have a job where I don't have to interact with my boss much, haha! Lovely outfit- classic and cute!

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  10. Awww, what interesting tips! Though I may still be in school, I think this heavily applies to teachers as well! Hahaha

    xx Bash | Bash Says Hey | bloglovin'

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    1. I agree! There are teachers who are too toxic and highly stressful!

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  11. wow! great post dear! xx

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