Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Gossip, Slander and Badmouth


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"One of the most important things I have learned in my life is that there will always be people who would gossip, slander, badmouth and all we need to do is to keep our peace. We can't control them. But the best defense and argument is a life well lived and work that is done with excellence. It is extremely hard to argue against reality." - Francis Kong

Gossiping, to commit slander and badmouthing are human nature. One cannot disassociate himself from these three. It is tempting to gossip about a colleague who came to work drunk. It is beguiling to commit slander against a relative who does not have the same values or ideals as you do. It is enticing to badmouth the person sitting next to you because you don't like his smell. These are mortal sins many people commit every day. Even small things like saying he smells really bad is already a form of badmouthing. You might argue that you are just being honest. Point taken. But if only bad things will come out of your mouth better stay silent. Or, if you really want to be honest and are genuinely concerned for that person tell him straight instead of talking behind his back. 


I am guilty of these three. People disappoint me and I get frustrated. Instead of telling them and pointing out their faults personally I talk shit behind their backs. I gossip, I slander, and I badmouth. At some point I enjoyed it because other people share my sentiments. I enjoyed the attention other people gave me just because I have something bad to say about another person. I was evil. I was bad. And I regret it.

Over the past few weeks, I came up with a new outlook in life: my problem is my problem. They are my own and other people don't need to be involved. I should solve my own issues. It is up to me to decide how I will handle my concerns and I don't need to tell this to other people. I want to stop inviting negative thoughts and energy into my life. I want to invite more positive feelings and success. I will stop gossiping, committing slander and badmouthing. I will strive to become a better person. 

It is very easy to fall prey into these mortal sins. It is tempting and sometimes you just want to let all your frustrations out. But as what Francis Kong said, the best thing to do is keep your peace and work with excellence. Just do what you have to do and excel in it. People who invite these three are insecure and weak. If you have issues deal with it and and then let go; move on. 

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